‘I’m tempted to dump my boring boyfriend for younger bloke who wants wild sex’

Dear Coleen

I’m a 40-year-old woman, but look a lot younger than my years (good genes passed on from my mum). I don’t have kids, but for the past couple of years I’ve been in a boring on-off relationship that’s going nowhere with a guy my age.

Recently, a very hot guy in his 20s has been pursuing me relentlessly. We know each other through work, although we don’t actually work together.

He’s not even flirting – he’s been very upfront about the fact he fancies me, wants to sleep with me and won’t give up until I say yes.

I am very, very tempted, but I don’t want to make a fool of myself and, even though my relationship is dull, I don’t want to be a cheat either. What do you think?

Coleen says

I think if your relationship is that dull and going nowhere, then you probably need to end it, regardless of whether anything happens with this younger hot guy.

If you do end your relationship and want to have some fun with the guy from work, what’s wrong with that?

I guess the question is: is he just looking for a bit of fun and is that all you want or do you have different expectations?

It’s very flattering and exciting to be desired by a younger sexy man. I’d be thrilled, but I wouldn’t want a relationship with him.

So, I guess you have to decide what you want from it and you’ll only be hurt or feel foolish if you go into it expecting more from him than he’s willing to give.